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Life (You Get What You Get And You Don't Get Upset)

Life operates in a series of ‘cycles’. One day you are up and the next day you are down - and you can bet your bottom dollar that it has absolutely nothing to do with whether you deserve good or bad fortune! It is just the nature of ‘life’ to go through these cycles.

My first ever experience with a ‘life cycle’ that I can vividly remember was September 15, 1978, at the tender age of 6, the only Poppy I had ever known died. That was a Friday. The following Monday, a girl at school I knew had her Poppy die. Back then as a little girl I remember thinking, Friday it was my turn to be sad and today it is her turn.

Everyone has a turn with experiencing hard times. Life makes no exceptions – wealthy, intelligent, poor, gifted. Sadness and loss, abundance and joy will come to each and every one of us at one time or another.


My second experience with regards to ‘life cycles’ was when I was in my late twenties. I remember sitting around the table having drinks with a group of friends and we were discussing all the life plans we would achieve once ‘things settled down’. When we had the money or when this fell into place or when that happened. Something always seemed to stand in the way and the timing just ‘never’ quite right. And that was my second realisation – you never get it all at the same time, or if you do, it doesn’t last very long.

Life, by its changeable nature, is also by nature unstable. I yearn to find balance in my life but that is not the reality, instead it is a process that requires my continual adjustment.

Nothing that has form will last. Relationships will change or end; jobs will be taken up and left; health will come and go, fortunes will be made and lost. Life, because it is life, is slippery and fluid and malleable, like the pellet of mercury that cannot be grabbed.

I am just asking for trouble and heartbreak if I expect life to be other than it is. Life is not meant to be controlled or stable or directed or overcome. It is meant to be experienced. That includes everything I call good and also everything that I call bad.

It’s like Joseph’s dream of the seven years of plenty and the seven years of famine.

So this morning the sun is shining, the coffee is hot and the breakfast is on the table. A day to eat, drink and be merry, and to rejoice in the love that surrounds me x


#life #stillnessspeaks #aswithinsowithout




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